In every moment of conscious existence, we feel one way or another. When something positive happens, we tend to feel happy and when something negative happens we tend to feel upset. But in awareness, there is control. Within every event, there is a cause and effect that flow either in the direction we believe we need it to, or in a way that upsets us. So is it truly the instance that is at fault, or is it our own?
In every situation, there is something to gain, whether the outcome is the way you want it or not. For example, if a hard working student receives an F on a test, most likely they will be upset. If the student is conscious of the fact that there is a positive element in this upset, then there is growth. In receiving a failing grade on this test, the student can use the failure as motivation to study harder or to get help with the class. A student who is unconscious of this would instead become extremely upset with the grade and immediately begin to blame his or her own abilities or the teacher.
This outlook on life bridges all walks of life. The prospect is basically that with all “good” or “bad” things, there is something to learn. When this is understood, then what is any event but a new opportunity? It’s as the old saying says, but with a minor modification, “What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger, if you so choose.”
So the next time you become upset over any level of conflict, think about what there is to learn and grow from. Open your mind to the opportunities ahead and find the value of all aspects of life.