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Sunday, October 07, 2007

By Ashley Carter, Courier Staff Writer

Have you ever thought about what teenage girls have accomplished lately? Well, here’s one accomplishment you want have to think twice about, losing their virginity. To some people that’s just a label you lose once you've had sex. To others that 9-letter word means so much more. That word alone should dwell in your spirit, soul, and body.

My father tells me “Your husband will respect you more if you keep yourself pure for him.” Hearing that now affects me more than it did in the past, because now it makes sense. Why would your husband want something that’s basically already used? I'm not saying marriage is only based on sex, but that’s one aspect where it should be shared between a husband and a wife.


source:cdc.gov Usually, when a girl get married, the wearing of a white wedding dress symbolizes purity. Day-by-day I hear how girls are just willingly giving themselves up to sex with no problem. The number of teenagers losing their virginity seems to be greatly increasing. Don't you think the majority of white wedding dress wearers is lying?

“Being bops and hoes is popular now,” says senior Allanieyah Hightower.

There once was a time when her virginity was the most precious and sacred thing to a girl. But now many seem to be just letting it go like they are able to get back. But have we forgotten that once it's gone, it’s gone for life.

Nowadays, it seems like there’s more of an urgency for a girl to lose her virginity. Especially if she has a boyfriend. Having a relationship shouldn’t be based on having relations. There’s no guarantee she's going to be with that person forever. For all we know it’s just temporary.

Do not let your “man” talk you into thinking that you’re going to be with him forever, because that’s usually not the case. But what’s the outcome if you tend to be intimate with all of your relationships. In reality that wouldn’t be so hard to believe because, some say, women are more emotionally involved in relationships than men are.

Let’s set a goal of try to keep our virginity for as long as we want and really take into consideration what Mr.Lyfe Jennings said in his song “….and think before you let it go”. We could try to be different and unique and, before you know it there, would be a growing population of virgin girls.

So with one last thought to leave you with: What do you think you present about yourself once you’re not a virgin anymore? Do you think later on you would regret the decision you made?

Please don’t let the temptation make the decision for you. Make your virginity more of a moral and less of a fault.

Comments

Excellent article.

Posted by Carmen at Sunday, October 07, 2007 11:30:24

I agree with Carmen.

Posted by Christina at Sunday, October 07, 2007 12:14:23

Sex is sex. If they want to have sex , and are comfortable with their partner, let them do it. Your no less " Pure " just because you did it. You write that once upon a time a girl's virginity was the most sacred thing to a girl, and if that's true, that's pretty sad.

Posted by take_two at Sunday, October 07, 2007 13:54:21

sex is a big thing, but a lot of people at school now seem to just do it and that it's nothing. they think once they've been with their girlfriend or boyfriend for a long time, they should just do it. well thats their own choice. but 4 me, i'm going to stay a virgin until i'm married and stay pure 4 my husband, who i hope is pure too. : ) PS good topic!!!

Posted by iatb at Sunday, October 07, 2007 15:34:13

In my opinion, it does bother me a bit when people our age talk about having sex, but for the reason that I don't think many of them are really ready for it. I guess I can understand though, if people have been together for a long time and they feel that even if they did, then they wouldn't regret it if they separated. The biggest thing is regret... because I hear too many stories like oh, I shouldn't have done that. I just kinda wish people would think about their actions first before they "give into their hormones" EXCUSES! Haha

Posted by Senior Man at Sunday, October 07, 2007 17:35:34

Nice article, and it is very true. Many people these days think of sex as just something fun to do, but few actually think about how they are going to feel once it's over and many end up regretting it.

Posted by pippy at Sunday, October 07, 2007 18:28:51

i think this article is an excellent topic and should be talked about through out schools. I totally agree not only because of what the statistics say but also according to the Bible it is wrong. Way to go keep real and upfront let em know wats up

Posted by femalejordan23 at Sunday, October 07, 2007 22:54:25

I can't tell, what is the graph about?

Posted by Edmond at Monday, October 08, 2007 07:03:32

I think the graph has percentages of high school students who has ever had sex, had sex before they were 13, and had sex with less than 4 people during their life. It is broken down into race/ethnicity, high school grade levels, and female/male/total.

Posted by Carmen at Monday, October 08, 2007 11:06:23

No Doubt this is a good topic. It's an important thing for everyone to think about. Sex is a big deal. No matter how you look at it. However I disagree with your logic on staying pure for your husband. Staying pure isn't solely about sex. Consider this; are you pure is you've made out with another guy? Are you pure if you've lusted after many? Are you pure is you've "experimented" with how far you can go without actually engaging in intercourse???? No you're not. If you really want to get into this whole "your husband wont want someone used" then there are many other things you need to consider. And how many girls have you ever heard of who virginity was sacred for? Go ask your mom and dad, odds are at least one of them has had sex before they were married, then go and ask other (older) people in your family if they have had sex before they were married and I think you'll find that virginity isn't sacred honey.

Posted by Little_Miss_Opinionative at Monday, October 08, 2007 11:40:15

OMG my friend wrote this!!! and really well too. i like how its so honest! good job ashley!

Posted by najia at Monday, October 08, 2007 12:12:48

Virginity is certainly important, and sex should not be taken lightly. Sex is something that is special and should be shared between two people, not thrown around like hugs. But it isn't all about staying a virgin. It's about sharing it with a person that you truly love and who loves you as well. Sex should be special no matter how much experience you've had.
The most important part of being in a relationship is monogamy. Are you any less of a slut if you make out with five guys while you're in a relationship yet remain a virgin? No. Even if you don't sleep around, people will assume that you do because you give that impression.
Whatever you do, make sure it is something that you won't regret.

P.S. The views of Hannigan are not those expressed in this comment. These are the views of lazy students who don't want to log out of the courier. =D

Posted by courier at Monday, October 08, 2007 12:25:31

batman agrees. not under the pretenses of any religion or keeping "pure" for your spouse although those are good arguments. you might want to think about yourself and really wonder about what actions you are going to take in life. And lastly, one can never justify their doings based on the actions of others. don't follow the herd, lead it. you can be a role model for others.

Posted by batman at Monday, October 08, 2007 16:55:07

sex is definately an important topic that should be discussed with teenagers outside of a class like lifeskills, where you don't really get a sense of the reality of it since ppl tend to zone out a bit when it comes to scientific terms. i've always viewed having sex as a matter of choice, and i see nothing wrong with having sex early in life (although certainly not before high school) as long as the couple knows EXACTLY what they're doing and getting into. likewise, i see nothing wrong with saving yourself for your future husband. the only thing that concerns me about this article is the idea that having sex makes a person "impure." purity, in my opinion, has more to do with the soul and the values and principles of the person rather than whether or not that person has had sex (of any kind). i mean, if a person is raped, they're no longer virgins, but they can still be pure, and i know people who have had sex who definately fit under the pure category. anyway, it's all a matter of opinion, and it's nice to see so many people putting theirs out there.

Posted by Stewart at Monday, October 08, 2007 21:42:31

I see the general public agrees that sex is a sacred thing, for reasons I still can't completely see. I like the whole reason saying the bible says not to, and I would really like FemaleJordan23 to show me where it speaks down upon sex. Also, why is the article solely about women keeping their virginity? If everyone agrees with this issue, shouldn't it also be about the man keeping his virginity also?

Posted by Take_Two at Monday, October 08, 2007 22:49:46

OMG! BATMAN!

Posted by some guy at Tuesday, October 09, 2007 08:33:24

Take_Two. i think that this article is directed towards girls because guys are way too horny to even think about anything else than hittin it. but girls make the final choice, in the end its their decision. also, i think that when u lose ur virginity, it doesnt mean u become a slut, but u still are impure. somones been there b4. ya kno?

Posted by Farah Q at Tuesday, October 09, 2007 12:20:54

OMG! YOU GUYS! BATMAN READS THE COURIER! OMG!

Posted by some guy at Tuesday, October 09, 2007 15:11:44

Although this article addresses moral concerns about virginity and females, it does NOT address virginity and men. Would not a woman want a pure man if she herself is pure? Also, it does not acknowledge the feministic view of sexual freedom. Too biased, too conservative.

Posted by logan grad at Wednesday, October 10, 2007 13:48:27

i wanna take a poll from as many people as i can. if you've had sex before, put a y. or put an n for no. and put ur name too please.

Posted by iatb at Wednesday, October 10, 2007 19:03:01

no.

Posted by iatb at Wednesday, October 10, 2007 19:04:01

I agree with logan grad, your article IS biased. We're not living in an era where women have to cater to their man and serve their husband anymore. This whole "keeping pure" so he will respect you concept is just completely absurd. You speak of women as these weak, poor little people who are incapable of making a decision or that they're easily able to be taken advantage of; and you talk about men like they're all manipulative, sex-driven a-holes. It also seems that you've been brainwashed by the double standard of society invovling women and their sexuality. They've broken out of their shell as this cookie cutter virgin and have become confident sexual beings because many have come to the realization that this whole myth about their purity is bull. Why is it that a woman gets criticized for being a nonvirgin and comfortable with her sexuality when a man is not?

Posted by Cathleen at Sunday, December 02, 2007 00:35:38

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